I've been thinking about this for such a long time..............and there is still so much to think about!!!
Choosing to be a single parent is definitely not an easy decision however for me it is definitely not impossible. I was raised by a single parent and I think she did a brilliant job. She also had 2 other young children in addition to me and no family in the country to help her. So I know it would be a struggle. However my mum didn't choose to be a single parent, she got married not once but twice and still she ended up a single parent.
So for me it's not all about meeting the right guy, getting married, buying the house and then having children, although of course that would be brilliant, my body clock is ticking and I am not prepared to wait for that the right man to come along, because he may never come.
I know my friends reading this will be thinking one of two things.............go ahead chick you'd be a great mum and we know if anyone could do it, you could do it OR 'just wait bella, you are still young (34) and there is still plenty of time.....look at our friend who just turned 40 and had a baby, it can still happen'.
I think it would be quite difficult for most people to understand my train of thought. I am a very independent person who is strong willed, opinionated, bossy, speaks my mind, doesn't hold back, and the list goes on but I am also a loyal, thoughtful, caring and I definitely have the maternal instinct. My poor friends and my staff that have worked for me in my career would definitely say that I have that motherly instinct. (I am laughing at all the times I put my hand out in front of people when crossing the road.....ha ha ha, my friends will know what I am talking about.)
Right so as much as I would like to do this, I am in what they call the 'Thinking' phase. So many questions, how will you get pregnant???, when??, where will you live....the UK or Australia???, how will support yourself and your child??? OMG and the list goes on.
I didn't realise how many women out there are in the same predicament as me or have actually gone ahead.
I am also very lucky to have an amazing family and friends who will support me no matter what decision I make. Bless my little sister........she thinks I would be an amazing mum. Love her lots. I admire her a lot as she became a mum quite young and my niece is the most amazing lady now.
OMG as I am writing this......on TV there is show called....True Stories: Sperm Donor..........
Right well no doubt I will write more about this at various stages.............but for now....these are my thoughts. I would love to get comments!
Until the next time...
Smooches
xx
PS...on my last post I stated I wasn't feel centered however I can happily say this is coming back and I'm loving life again!!! :)))
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